I've recently written Bullying and Social Aggression: 50 Practical Tips for Parents, Teachers, and Others Who Work With Children. There are tips for schools and other organizations, tips for parents, and tips for kids. From now until December 31, 2009, this Guide of practical, no cost tips is just $10. The price goes up to $15 on January 1, 2010.
I know you'll find these tips helpful and practical. They do not require a lot of time to implement, are common sense, and do not require hundreds of dollars in fees for special counselors to teach these tips. They are simple and effective, when used with consistency and implemented properly.
These tips are helpful for bullying, and social/relational aggression which is a form of bullying.
Julie Clark
Friday, September 18, 2009
Bullying and Social Aggression: 50 Practical Tips for Parents, Teachers, and Others Who Work With Children
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Books for sale
From time to time I'll post books that I have and no longer have room for. They ship from Cobbs Creek VA, and are limited in availability.
The first book I have is See Jane Hit by James Garbarino, Ph.D. Book is hardcover and in great condition...no rips, no markings, and from a non smoking home. Book is about the rising violence in girls. Payment is secure via PayPal.
Other books, generally in the social issues/bullying/relational aggression/parenting topics will be listed over time.
The first book I have is See Jane Hit by James Garbarino, Ph.D. Book is hardcover and in great condition...no rips, no markings, and from a non smoking home. Book is about the rising violence in girls. Payment is secure via PayPal.
Other books, generally in the social issues/bullying/relational aggression/parenting topics will be listed over time.
Son bullied in summer school
Q: My 9 year old son was recently bullied by another boy in his summer school class. My son doesn't know this boy as they were not in regular classes together during the school year. My son's shirt was ripped, he received scratches (bloody) on his face and arm, and one scratch became infected so I had to take him to the doctor. This boy also tries to trip my son and calls him vulgar names. The school will not tell us who the bully is and anything else about the situation other than "it is being addressed." They will not tell me how it is being addressed, such as what consequences the bully has had, if his parents know, or what steps the school is taking to help my son. We've tried being patient but our patience is worn thin now and my son has 2 weeks left of summer school and is dreading each day. Thanks for any insight!
A: Your story is one that I hear more times than I can count. We received the same go 'round when our son was bullied in his school some years ago. The school will likely cite privacy rights so ask them what rights your son has and what your rights as a taxpaying citizen are. You're likely to get stares, dropped jaws and non-answers. For whatever reasons, schools seem bound to protect the bullies and guard their rights.
As a parent, you cannot properly protect your child until you know who the bully is...he may be a neighbor, your son may have to ride the bus or walk to school with this boy, and so on. Ask the school why they are covering up for this boy. Since your son received injuries that required a doctor, you may want to consider legal advice and letting the school know that you are seeking counsel. Rather than bullying, your son was assaulted and is the continuing target of the bully.
I would have little trust in a school who not only failed to protect my child but then also engaged in cover up and refusing to cooperate with the parents of the victim to seek solutions. In cases such as these, I suggest seeking legal counsel from a source in your area. It isn't fair that you will be inconvenienced, it isn't fair that you will likely have legal fees on top of doctor bills, it isn't fair that your son is bullied/assaulted and the school is not cooperating...I've been there, done that. Your alternatives to not seeking legal advice would be to homeschool or change schools. But changing schools is not an easy thing to do and no guarantee that it won't happen elsewhere. Homeschooling is a major undertaking and not all can do it. Just something to think about.
*Copyright 2009 Julie P Clark
Julie has written a Guide for parents, schools, and other organizations to deal with bullying/relational aggression issues:
A: Your story is one that I hear more times than I can count. We received the same go 'round when our son was bullied in his school some years ago. The school will likely cite privacy rights so ask them what rights your son has and what your rights as a taxpaying citizen are. You're likely to get stares, dropped jaws and non-answers. For whatever reasons, schools seem bound to protect the bullies and guard their rights.
As a parent, you cannot properly protect your child until you know who the bully is...he may be a neighbor, your son may have to ride the bus or walk to school with this boy, and so on. Ask the school why they are covering up for this boy. Since your son received injuries that required a doctor, you may want to consider legal advice and letting the school know that you are seeking counsel. Rather than bullying, your son was assaulted and is the continuing target of the bully.
I would have little trust in a school who not only failed to protect my child but then also engaged in cover up and refusing to cooperate with the parents of the victim to seek solutions. In cases such as these, I suggest seeking legal counsel from a source in your area. It isn't fair that you will be inconvenienced, it isn't fair that you will likely have legal fees on top of doctor bills, it isn't fair that your son is bullied/assaulted and the school is not cooperating...I've been there, done that. Your alternatives to not seeking legal advice would be to homeschool or change schools. But changing schools is not an easy thing to do and no guarantee that it won't happen elsewhere. Homeschooling is a major undertaking and not all can do it. Just something to think about.
*Copyright 2009 Julie P Clark
Julie has written a Guide for parents, schools, and other organizations to deal with bullying/relational aggression issues:
School will be starting soon...
Check out StopRAtoday.com for info on bullying and relational aggression. For parents, teachers and others, a good resource is the Guide which I wrote, available in Word Document. It details what bullying and relational aggression is and what to do about it. Many have an idea of what bullying is but most resources are short on what to DO about it. My Guide gives ideas of what can be done which is simple, effective, and low cost.
Many anti-bullying programs cost hundreds to thousands of dollars, are difficult to implement, and often so burdensome that the program is either not followed or soon abandoned. My Guide is $15 and has suggestions/advice that is not burdensome, is simple, and low to zero cost to implement!
This Guide is good for bullying situations as well as relational aggression situations. Being proactice is key...have a program in advance that you and your parents and staff will actually use BEFORE school starts!
*Copyright 2009 Julie P Clark
Many anti-bullying programs cost hundreds to thousands of dollars, are difficult to implement, and often so burdensome that the program is either not followed or soon abandoned. My Guide is $15 and has suggestions/advice that is not burdensome, is simple, and low to zero cost to implement!
This Guide is good for bullying situations as well as relational aggression situations. Being proactice is key...have a program in advance that you and your parents and staff will actually use BEFORE school starts!
*Copyright 2009 Julie P Clark
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Another bullycide....
Yet another child has taken his life. This is happening with frightening frequency:
Parents of teen who shot himself file $3 million claim against district
By SCOTT MARTINDALE
The Orange County Register
SAN CLEMENTE – The parents of a San Clemente High School sophomore who shot himself to death last month have filed a $3 million legal claim against the Capistrano Unified School District that alleges administrators failed to stop the "relentless" bullying leading up to his suicide.
Daniel Mendez, 16, was found May 1 in a residential neighborhood near his San Clemente home, dead from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head.
To read the entire article, please click on the OC Register link: The Orange County Register
Parents of teen who shot himself file $3 million claim against district
By SCOTT MARTINDALE
The Orange County Register
SAN CLEMENTE – The parents of a San Clemente High School sophomore who shot himself to death last month have filed a $3 million legal claim against the Capistrano Unified School District that alleges administrators failed to stop the "relentless" bullying leading up to his suicide.
Daniel Mendez, 16, was found May 1 in a residential neighborhood near his San Clemente home, dead from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head.
To read the entire article, please click on the OC Register link: The Orange County Register
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Bullying And Being Bullied Linked To Suicide In Children, Review Of Studies Suggests
ScienceDaily (July 19, 2008) — Researchers at Yale School of Medicine have found signs of an apparent connection between bullying, being bullied and suicide in children, according to a new review of studies from 13 countries.
To read the entire article, click HERE
To read the entire article, click HERE
Julie will be interviewd live on radio
Julie Clark of StopRAtoday.com will be interviewed live by Steve van Zandt of Daybreak with Steve&Jackie on News Talk 590 WROW (Albany, New York). The topic will be bullying and bullycide. Those in the listening area are invited to tune in and listen to this important topic.
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